Question: Dear Luise: My oldest daughter asked to live with us while she finished nursing school, children’s father was lazy and an alcoholic. I have been the sole caretaker for these beautiful children since birth. We sold/bought a larger home with huge yard for our grandbabies to play in. They were very happy here they are 7 and almost 4. Schools were good etc. 2 weeks after moving in, daughter went looking at an apartment. Really had no way of paying for it and it upset my 7r old grandson. Over the past yr she became abusive, constantly belittling me because I did not make it past high school, insulting my family etc. On 3 seperate occasions she stood with arms stretched across doorway, saying mean/hurtful things. I could no longer take it and told her to leave, it was all I could say at the moment and in my heart did not want my grandchildren to be dragged through any more than they had been. She has moved and will not answer my emails, I’ve apologized and pleaded to let us see our grand babies. On Wed my siser in laws will be coming for a visit, I assume we will be read the riot act because she had been texting and emailing them for several months telling them how mean I am. My husband & I both feel she resents the fact that our grandbabies love us and enjoy us. THey behave and never give us a problem with bed time, when she would be home it was at least an hr of yelling, threats, crying. I personally feel she took out her anger towards me, bf wouldn’t fight back and I know she was hurtful and mean towards him. I’m not sure how to handle this, I don’t want to relive this past year and also do not need to defend myself we were the ONLY family that helped until now. It hurts to have children disrespect you and drag the entire family into this. I’m also fearful what the children may have been told. My grandson was my husband’s shadow my granddaugher is the sweetest loving little soul. Please any advice, I don’t like confrontations and not looking for an arguement but need to put out that we want to continue our relationship with our grand babies, my daughter does not have to like me but just acknowledge that we have been there for them all along and don’t want to lose this relationship. C.
Answer: Dear C.: This isn’t a simple question and answer situation. Please bring is over to my Web-forum at www.WiseWomenUnite.com where you will have the benefit of community, support, dialogue and multiple responses. I will be there. Blessings, Luise