Question: Dear Luise: I am 30 years old and I feel like my mom is always picking on me. She treats me like I’m 2 years old. She yells at me and treats me like I’m stupid and I don’t know why. Please help. Y.
Answer: Dear Y. Do you think knowing why your mother does that is going to make it any better? Some women were yelled at and put down by their own mothers and are staying with a familiar pattern…(although I don’t know how they can see such horrible behavior as acceptable.) Some want their grown children to remain dependent and think that abuse will do it. Some are just plain mean.
There are probably several other explanations but that’s not where you need to focus. You need to find an advocate to help you to remove yourself from that toxic environment. Be your own best friend and go to a counselor for support. No one deserves to be treated like that. She may be your mother…but she’s wrong. Blessings, Luise