Question: Dear Luise: this question is really about the relationship between my daughter and her mother-in-law. I feel if this is not resolved it will hurt her marriage to a wonderful young man. Everthing was great until their first baby arrived. The baby is 5 monthes old. the problem is the mother-in-law does not listen to how my daughter wants things done for their child, and will even let her know what she is doing wrong. My daughter feels her husband should step up and let his mom now how she feels. Her husband thinks she is being over sensitive and picking on his mom. I think this would be hard for since his mom is passive-aggressive. My daughter is a good mom, but as most first time mom needs encouragement. What can she do to resolve this issue. L.
Answer: Dear L.: Have your daughter come over to my Web-forum where the members there will do their best to help her with this much too common problem. WWW.WiseWomenUnite.com
When the husband can’t see his mother in a clear light and won’t defend his new family, there is seldom anything anyone can say or do to change his mind. Your daughter and her concerns and feelings should be his primary responsibility but his mother has him under her control. He’s in denial because he is probably afraid of her. You daughter deserves so much better. Blessings, Luise