Question: Dear Luise: I have 2 sons both with children. My oldest son has been in and out of a relationship with us and I have only seen his child maybe 10 times the child is 5. I have gotten use to not being a part of their lives. Although it still hurts and ai want to it is just not happening. My youngest son has a child who is 3 for the first year I kept the baby because they had no one else . I have always been able to get her anytime and they never kept her from me. Forthe past month they are keeping her away because they say she is sick and don’t need to be around smoke , my husband and I both smoke, I have told them I have no problem not smoking around her but they refuse to let me see her and blaming it on that reason. I truly thi k it is something else but they say it’s nothing. I am so upset over this and really don’t know what to do. I have started to quit smoking and have told them I wear patches but they still red use to let me see her. D.
Answer: Dear D.: I agree with you because you smoked when you had her before. It is their right to decide who she gets to be around, however.
Good for you for trying everything. Let them know that you will listen to anything they suggest in an attempt to get things back to the way they were. You deserve so much better. Blessings, Luise