Question: Dear Luise: My husband and I could really use some advice. My husband’s son is getting married. We love him and our future daughter-in-law, but she did not send out invitations to our side of the family. When asked, our son states that I gave her our wrong zip code. Then why didn’t any one else on our side get an invitation either? Our sons FRIENDS all got invitations but not parents or grandparents or aunts and uncles. She sent me a texed message asking for 1700.00 by the weekend for the wedding. I told her I could give her some. When it came time to give her the money she wanted me to bring it to her. I couldn’t drive at night, and asked her to quickly drop by. I haven’t heard from her since. Our son said he would call his father back to talk about this after 9pm when he could use the free minutes on his cell phone. It’s been 3 days and we have not herd from either one of them. Should we go to the wedding anyway, or take the hint? L.
Answer: Dear L.: I think I would go but I sure wouldn’t expect much.
It’s their wedding and to my way of thinking, the choices they are making show their level in immaturity, self-absorption and thoughtlessness. (Pretending to be an adult can be exhausting.)
Usually the bride’s parents steer the couple through their traditional obligations but for many on the groom’s end of things, it can be (and is) done pretty ruthlessly.
I would like to invite you to come over to my Web-forum with this issue. It is at: www.wisewomenunite.com Blessings, Luise