Question: DEAR LUISE: MY SON’S WIFE BECAME HYSTERICAL WHEN I SPOKE OF MOVING BACK TO THE SAME STATE WHICH TOOK ME COMPLETELY BY SURPRISE AS I ALWAYS GOT ON SO WELL WITH HER YES MY SONS BECAME SEPARATED AFTER THE DIVORCE I WAS HEARTBROKEN BUT HE WANTED TO LIVE W HIS DAD AS HE DIDN’T LIKE WHERE I WAS LIVING WITH HIS SIBLING I WAS WRONG BUT DIDN’T REALIZE IT AT THE TIME SHE SAID THINGS THAT HAPPENED TO MY SON THAT I NEVER HEARD B4 AS HIS DAD WAS NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE CONTACT W/ME HIS NEW WIFE WLD NOT ALLOW HIM. MY SON IS VERY SUCCESSFUL AND HAS LOVELY CHILDREN OF HIS OWN I NOW FEEL I SHLD NOT MOVE BACK I AM 75 YRS OLD & JUST WANT PEACE BUT ALL OF MY FAMILY LIVES IN THE SAME STATE, I WAS NOT IN A POSITION TO MOVE B4 & I am financially independent PLEASE HELP I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO. D.
Answer: Dear D.: There isn’t a right or wrong answer. If you go, you will face one set of circumstances and if you stay you will face another. If you have a lot of relatives there, I don’t believe it makes sense for one person to convince you not to come. Why give her that much power.
Why don’t you bring the question to www.WiseWomenUnite.com ? A discussion on the subject might help you make up your mind. However, if you are comfortable where you are and have a support system in place, think twice about moving. It’s always a gamble that it will meet your expectations, to my way of thinking. And for some at least, it is true that the older we get, the harder a move is on us. Blessings, Luise