Question: Dear Luise: My son is 35.He is having surgery on his jaw.I want to postpone my leaving for Fl until after the surgery.He does not eant me to postpone.He says he has lots of vriends and his fiance will be there.I am hurt but should I honour his wishes or just show up at the hospital.He is my only son. My husband and youngest son have both passed away.Pleade let me know your opinion. N.
Answer: Dear N.: This is about your son, not you. He wants you to go on to Florida as planned. My take is that it doesn’t have anything to do with the fact that he is your surviving son or that you have lost your husband. It has to do with his kindness and consideration and your acknowledging that.
I would suggest that you thank him and ask for a full report from someone designated to keep you on top of things by email. He’s respecting you. Respect him in return. He sounds like a great guy. Blessings, Luise