Question: Dear Luise: My granddaughter was born out of wedlock, and lived in my house until she was 6 months old, and thereafter almost all the time ( I’d say 3 out of 5 days) until she was 3 1/2. NOw she’s 4, and because her mother preached to her that my house was not her house, and I was not her mother, she got to where she didnt want to come here- especially after her mother would continually bring her here to drop her off so she could go party. She was also being dropped off at another friend’s house and left for days. Now her mother tells her “if u dont be good, i’m gonna take u to Nanna’s. And when she does, child screams and cries, I want to stay with you Mommy. She’s so affraid of leaving her mommy now- and all she will say to me is i dont love you no more Nanna, and I dont ever want to come back to your house no more! This has broken Nannas heart and also a very loving Pappa who used to rock her to sleep at night and play with her all the time, who she used to voluntarily tell “I love you, Pappa. Now its no more, If you know a course of action or any help, please avise. Thank you. K.
Answer: Dear K.: I don’t know of anything you can do except start a scrap book of letters to her to give her when she is of age. Her mother is in charge, unfortunately and this is abuse without question. It’s just that in so much abuse that is so much worse that the authorities aren’t going to help.
Please think about coming over to www.WiseWomenUnite.com my Web-forum, where women up against the same kinds of issues support each other. I am so sorry. You deserve so much better. Blessings, Luise