Question: Dear Luise: I’m a boy and my mom is overprotective. I don’t know what to do any more. I tired to talk it out with her but she’s too worried. I can’t talk on the phone, go to a friend’s house, maybe go to the movies or even go by my old babysitter, they were kinda like family to me Can you please help me? R.
Answer: Dear R.: You need an advocate to speak for you. A relative, former sitter, your dad, a minister, a school counselor…but be prepared, she may not listen.
Your mother needs help with this. She probably needs to see a counselor. We all panic (I was a mom) when our little ones cease to be little and branch out. We have to deal with it and face the risks. It’s very, very hard. She’s suffering from anxiety.
As a result, you are being robbed of the joys of growing up. That’s a subtle variety of abuse but she doesn’t know it. Find someone who has some influence and see if you can get their attention. Your problem is real and it is harmful for you to have such strict limitations. You deserve a better life than this. Blessings, Luise