Question: Dear Luise: I don’t know why my mother does not approve of my boyfriend. We have been in a relationship for three years. She doesn’t even want to see him or talk to him at all. C.
Answer: Dear C.: Your mother may not even know why she doesn’t like your guy. Or she may feel that you won’t listen to her…so she’s taking a stand. Let her know that you are willing to discuss it with her, if she wants to share her thinking in a respectful way.
You need the room to make your own choices, even if they are wrong. How else can you learn? And it may not be wrong. He may be the perfect guy for you and it’s your mother that’s off the mark.
Communication is the most important issue here. If your mother won’t talk about it, there is nothing much your can do about that. Just let her know that you are giving her the opportunity, will hear her out and would like her to give you the same courtesy.
The final decision is yours, always. She knows that, even if she doesn’t like it. Blessings, Luise