Question: Dear Luise: My mother is in stage 5 kidney failure. She is living with me right now. I have 6 sisters and 2 brothers. I am the bottom of the middle with two younger sisters. Everyone one is in agreement that this will be hardest on me than anyone.
I am finding it harder every day to just function. I know that momma’s days are numbered, and that number is way smaller than I would like it to be.
To top it off, out of her 15 grandchildren, my daughter is the favorite. The bad news is that my daughter joined the Peace Corps, and just left for China the end of June.
We have been operating on the plan of momma getting better after beating cancer in June, so my daughter doesn’t know about the kidney failure. How do I tell her, Do I tell her, When do I tell her? They are very close, and I fear it will jeopardize her placement in the Peace Corps.
I can’t just send her an email, and crush her world with no body there to hold her together. I just don’t know what to do. C.
Answer: Dear C.: I think I would let her know that her grandmother isn’t feeling as well as she’d hoped and that she want’s your daughter to know, just in case…that if she should pass she wants her to stay where she is and do what needs to be done. That she wants your daughter to know how proud she is of her and to know that she is doing it for both of them. Blessings, Luise