Question: Dear Luise: How do I react in a “mature ” manner to my eldest son and his wife who have decided I am too depressing,too cruel, too unappreciative of my daughter-in-laws obvious brilliance. They have decided to keep my grandkids from me until i show my proper adulation for her She has been diagnosed as bi-polar. Both of them are very involved with their own beings. They show no caring for anyone else. Her goal has been to get him away from our side of the family. It appears she has won. Do I have no rights as a grandparent? I am at this point feeling like their is going to be no forgiving on my part. using my grandkids to punish me is wrong. I do not know what I have done so wrong. S.
Answer: Dear S.: Yes, she has won. There is nothing you can do that I know of. They have started a new family unit and they make the rules. What they’re doing is nuts but it’s their life and all you can do is make a new life for yourself without them in it. You can’t change them. Yes, it’s wrong. I totally agree. You deserve so much better. Blessings. Luise