Question: Dear Luise: I am in the struggle as the others who. Posted. I really cannot describe the heartache and confusion I have with the disrespect and ignorance my eldest son is and always as had towards me. I am a single Dad. Who has taken 3 kid’s since they had been in middle school. It’s been the most difficult experience I have had in my entire life. I expected it to be no bowl of cherries. But have it all blowup in your face in the end is almost to much to bare. I expected some of it,but never like this. I want to cut off all ties, but that doesn’t feel right. I see how letting these feelings make extraordinary decisions can be so damaging. Like the final blow to our relationship for many years.I an so confused of how to handle him. He is moving far away very soon. I want to tell him off let him know how much hurt I have. I know he knows what’s going on here.it‘s a power struggle. P.
Answer: Dear P. You and I both know that you deserve so much better. That said, telling him off and letting him know that he has hurt you isn’t going t help. He knows. Step back and let him do whatever he does. If he wants contact in the future, set boundaries around his abuse and your refusal to take any more of it. He’s responsible for his actions and whatever his reactions are to any power struggle that has ensued. You are not responsible for this, he is the one who has taken it upon himself to sever the relationship and imagine himself a victim. Hang in there. Blessings, Luise