Question: Dear Luise: I have a 28yr old married daughter with two beautiful kids, my daughter and I used to get along but not sure what changed but at times she almost seems to hate me. The only time my daughter calls is when she and her husband need a babysitter. The smallest lil question can make her turn on me in an instant. My husband told me not to cater to her with the kids but if I dont watch them I wont see them and my lil granddaughter loves me she told her mom she loves me more than she loves her. My mom thinks my daughter is jealous of me and my granddaugher. Most of the time when I am around my daughter I am on guard. Do you have any advice? Thanks. L.
Answer: Dear L.: Children are inclined to like their grandparents best. Mom has the tough, full time job. Talk with your daughter and ask her how she wants to handle this. It’s her choice but you may be able to work it out together. Maybe you need to be around more when she is present. She’s the one who has set it up the way it is.
If you can’t work as a team, your husband is right and you need to distance yourself so her authority isn’t threatened. Blessings, Luise