Question: Well im only 13 and my boyfriend is 15. we’ve broken up once but that was about a year ago. I’m so confused on wether i still love him or I’m just holding onto old feelings and making myself think that i love him. Everything is basically perfectly fine, it’s just how im feeling lately…i just don’t know what to do or say or even think fearing that its fake and not true love. When i first saw him a few years ago tho…the only thing that popped into my mind was “ima marry him.” my dad told me thats what happened when he first saw my mom and now they are happily married. I’ve tried talking to him about it but no matter what we try to do or say it just comes back to this. i really want to believe that i do truely love him tho. PLEASE HELP. S.
Answer: Dear S.: Probably the only way you are going to know is to go out there into the world and have a full life without him and see if somewhere down the road you get back together.
Some people are 100% sure no matter how old they are but for many, doubts creep in and there is nothing worse than trying to make it look like the spark is still there when you know it isn’t. It can take you down and almost make you sick to have to try to keep pretending. What happened to your dad and mom may not be your path.
Let your guy know that it’s not him, it’s you and that you have no idea what it means. You just need to go your own way. He deserves the truth. Blessings, Luise