Question: Dear Luise: I’ve got a problem, my husband and I are going on ten years of marriage one 8 year old son and three older away from home girls hes raised for these ten years plus and were dealing with this crappy economy, no vehicle living in a small town with no jobs. So my husband and I figured maybe him going to stay with our in laws in a bigger town to try to find a job, I didn’t feel comfortable with the situation i don’t know how to trust my husband or in laws. He and I discussed my feelings and he understands and he’s never given me a reason not to trust him, but due to a hard and hurt past its hard to trust. My in laws have two somewhat new daughter in laws they now ignore me treat me like crap but love them and show it. I think maybe they want my husband to find a new someone too he tells me he doesnt care about anyone else only me. so is it my paranoya or what please help. Thank You. T.
Answer: Dear T.: We can never know what another person will do in any given set of circumstances. Worrying about it just causes stress and doesn’t solve anything. If your husband wanted to wander off, he could have done it right under your nose. It happens all the time.
The decision to separate temporarily for economic reasons is something the two of you see as practical under the circumstances. You can do it and stand by each other if that’s the stuff you’re made out of. You need to do something and you don’t have a lot of options. Good for you for not giving up and good luck. Blessings, Luise