Question: Dear Luise: Let me start by telling you that I am a Christian and believe God is ultimately in control of everything and trust Him completely, but I have a situation with my health that I need prayer. I don’t know if it’s mental or physical but I am at the brink of thinking I might need counseling. I have a hard time being around large groups of people. I never have really been like this before. I start to sweat and shake and get very anxious. I would rather be alone than spend time with anyone. I seems every time my husband walks in the house I am drained of every ounce of energy. I seems like he sucks the life right out of me. I love my husband and don’t understand what’s happening to me. I don’t want to go to church anymore, I just stay at home and watch TV preachers. Tell me, am I loosing my mind or do I just need a anti anxiety medication. I would appreciate any advice you could give me. I feel like I am a total looser and failure. Thank you. K.
Answer: Dear K.: If you haven’t already done so, I think the place I would start would be with a complete physical. There are a lot of conditions that might produce the kind of symptoms you are displaying. Personally, I wouldn’t go the anti-depressant route because I don’t believe in covering up something that needs to be attended to and resolved, but that’s just my point of view.
If that doesn’t give you any answers, the next thing I’d do would be to look at alternative solutions, the first being seeing a NLP practitioner. That stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. You can look them up on the web. I had a condition one time that produced some very negative symptoms. NLP quickly and permanently took me through my unconscious anxiety and back into good health.
I found out about it when my son retired as a youth pastor and became a licensed NLP practitioner.
It seems normal to me that you feel like a total loser and a failure but that is simply not true. You are facing some serious difficulties and that isn’t easy. Good for you for facing them head-on. Blessings, Luise