Question: Dear Luise: I am a divorced mother of 2 adult boys ages 20 and 23. When I seperated both boys lived with there father due to my disappointment they did not want to live with me. The eldest boy put the blame on me that there farming property had to be sold to pay me for the seperation and no longer talks to me at all. The youngest son used to talk with me on a regular basis till I came to the conclusion he only would talk to me around Christmas, Easter, Birthday or when he wanted money or lunch paid for by me. Recently the youngest son has been trying to contact me on facebook and telephone and recently came around to my house at 11 pm at night knocking on my door. What do you think I should about this problem. I have now moved on in my life and have been in a relationship with a nice man for over 2 years. We still live apart but I would like to resolve my past life before I can move on more. R.
Answer: Dear R.: You’d better find out what your son wants and handle it. You are moving on with your life which is wonderful but you can never erase your past. There will always be unresolved issues to deal with. Blessings, Luise