Question: Dear Luise: I am almost 63 and have 43 year old daughter that has been critical and sarcastic of me as long as I can remember. I have tried everything to make it right but I know now after all these years of obsessing on her and deglecting my husband and myself that I no longer want to try with her, In fact I am finally angry, I am angry at the time I wasted with her She has been under two controlling husbands, Has two estranged sons aged 19 and 23, and I realize I am not alone in being a victime of her sarcasim and bullying, I know all the talk about she is unhappy I have tried for multi years to somehow make it my fault as I could not accept that my daughter could hate me. No longer though, I do not even want to see her. I just want to know how to deal with the time and energy I have put into her and the ignoring I have done of my life, I am depressed tired angry sad and want to know how can I feel those years and energy and habit of obsessing about her into something positve so I can have a positive life and not just want to feel I am a loser and all I want to do is sleep,This is in a nutshell Please read between the lines, thanks, you. M.
Answer: Dear M.: I started a Web-forum several years ago for questions like yours because I realized that a single answer wasn’t enough. Most of us need a supportive community of women who are experiencing something very similar; a place to move through it and hopefully, to heal. Please come over to: www.WiseWomenUnite.com Blessings, Luise