Question: Dear Luise: My daughter left my house two months ago and hasnt talkedwith me since….she is staying with friends and isnt a slouch as she will graduate with her BA this year and works..our personalities clash and we have butted heads for years but since she moved back with me 2 years ago to resume her schooling we have cerainly had out ups and downs…for a while we did really well then about three months ago she became very uncivil and rude towards me….to the point I snapped and I threw a knife at her. Truth be told it could have been anything but it was a knife…I certainly didnt have murder on my mind but it was done in anger…I am grieving for the loss of my daughter and fear she will never speak with me again. I.
Answer: Dear I.: You were the adult in the situation and you did not take the responsibility for that. Before you do anything else, my take is that you need some serious counseling in the area of anger management.
Set that up and then let your daughter know that you are going to give it everything you’ve got and can only hope that when you become the kind of role model she deserves, she will be willing to let you back into her life.
None of us is perfect but a knife-throwing mom is beyond the pale. She deserves so much better. And you do, too. Give it to yourself. Blessings, Luise