Question: Dear Luise: I have a daughter in law that has been telling my son (when he’s not present)very terrible stories on what when on with he’s family.First she told me that she needed to borrow $600 for rent because she did not what to take it out of there account because it would close it. I did and asked for her to pay it back on a certain date because it was my Xmas savings for my grandchildern.When the time can I did ask for it and was told she would give it to me on Friday.Well too many Fridays came and gone I finally relized my son didn’t know and had no choice but to tell him.Every since then she will do anything to keep me and he’s sister and brother from him and my grandsons.I forgave but I did not forget I’ve offered to babysit and to visit the boys but there is always The same answer that her sister needs money or her Mom needs food in return of babysitting And now they will not answer the phone when I call I guess you can say that she does’nt want to spend the holidays with us Now she starting lieing to my son that I did not call I don’t know what else to do I was very close with my son and now that she started a new life with partying and new people I think she forgot alot that I did for her from her wedding to helping them fix up thier home Please help me I miss my son and grandsons. D.
Answer: Dear D.: Please come over to my Web-forum where you will find other women facing the same thing. The question and answer venue on this site doesn’t work well with issues around adult children and extended families. What is needed for most of us is sharing and caring, support and a place to heal. Come see us at www.WiseWomenUnite.com You deserve so much better. Blessings, Luise