Question: Dear Luise: My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, lived together for 3 years. I’m 29 and he is 30x Sex to begin with was fantastic but now it has disappeared. I was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 years ago and I’m nearing the end of my treatment. It had been a really difficult time for the both of us but we havnt had sex since I was diagnosed. I am a prude when it comes to sex but I have tried to talk about it. I’ve tried telling him that I’m ready again and he agrees with me but then nothing happens. He tells me he loves me every day and I’m hoping he may ask me to marry him soon but indint want to accept his proposal if we havnt been intimate. What should I do?? I feel like he doesn’t love me ir fancy me but he tells me he does. G.
Answer: Dear G.: He has a problem. You can’t fix it or even help him address it. It’s his. It isn’t going to work. What he tells you doesn’t matter, not really…if it doesn’t show up in his actions. Let him know that loving him and being able to live with him are two different things and that you are going to get on with your life. You deserve so much better. Blessings, Luise