Question: Dear K.: My husband and I have been married for nearly two years. He was deployed for the first year we were married and during his deployment something happened. One of my ex friends told him I was cheating when I wasn’t. Since that he has changed and things have gotten worse. We seem to be growing apart and our arguments are getting more physical. A few days ago he tried to physically throw me out of the house. I was concerned he was going to break my wrist. I know I shouldn’t be in a relationship like this but I feel as if I am quitting if I leave. I feel guilty about wanting to leave and therefore I don’t. When or will I ever know if things are past repair with him. I still love him, but do not know how much more I can take. K.
Answer: Dear K.: It sounds like a no go, to me…and you are not the quitter. Your husband quit trusting you and trusted someone else instead. You can’t change him, only yourself and your circumstances. You deserve so much better. Staying in an abusive relationship, and that’s what it is, will do you serious harm. You’ve been hurt way too much already. Blessings, Luise