Question: Dear Luise: I’m only 14 years old, and I have been liking this guy for over a month now. On the last week of school, he found out that I liked him. At first he was all shy, then the next day he started ignoring me, so I wrote him a note, then I think he realized how much I liked him and he started apologizing when I walked past him, and I forgave him. Then he was with his friends and one of his friends said that he was glancing at me and reckoned that he liked me back, so I was starting to feel really happy. But I don’t know for sure if he actually likes me back. I haven’t seen him for 3 weeks now because its the holidays, and this week I have been talking to this guy from school online, and he has been a really good friend these couple of days, and for some reason I can’t get him out of my head! I know I like him as a friend and I still have strong feelings for the guy I like. What does this mean?? I’m really confused, and I hope I don’t have feelings for the guy I’ve been talking to online, because I know his just a friend. And I really want to ask out the guy I like, but I don’t know if I should do it face to face or a friend to do it for me? Please reply, thank you. E.
Answer: Dear E.: I can see that it would be confusing to have all of this going on at once.
I’d just keep my options open. That’s one great thing about being 14. Why just like one person? Feelings come and go and the more you get to know someone, the more they can change.
And when you are ready to ask someone out, I’d do it myself. If you feel shy, do it by email or texting because when you bring another person in on it, the whole thing can get too complicated. The same is true when others pass on information of any kind; it can get distorted and misinterpreted. Blessings, Luise