Question: Dear Luise: I’d like to say I really appreciate that you’ve taken the time to help us all out here at this site. It’s very admirable that an 82 year-old lady would take an interest in the rest of us. Your maturity has obviously brought you much wisdom, and it’s very generous of you to share. Anyway, my question pertains to marriage. My boyfriend and I almost immediately knew we loved each other, and we’ve gotten along very well during the year and a half we’ve been dating. We don’t wish to get married for a few more years so that we can be as sure as possible of our compatibility before we become legally tied and start a family. We’re both very young (he’s 22, I’m 21) and unfortunately know that the statistics are against us. The idea of being financially entangled, and having a family, before we realize things won’t work out, scares both of us. So, as many years of experience with these sort of things that you have, I have to ask – what practical things do all couples need to consider before they decide to get married? What sagely advice would you be willing to dish out? Thanks again! A.
Answer: Dear A.: Thank you for your kind words.
I have given this a great deal of thought and have written a lengthy answer but I think you would be better served if you posed your question on my Web-forum: www.wisewomenunite.com . You have already qualified as a wise woman by asking the kind of question you did.
Your question will create a discussion so besides reading my answer, you will have the benefit of reading what others think, as well. See you there. Blessings, Luise