Question: Dear Luise: I’m 23 years old I met my boyfriend 8 months ago. He is very caring and loving but he have a desire that he want to have sex with me but I’m too afraid to have sex because I don’t wanna have pre marriage sex I told him that but he doesn’t agree with me whenever I have conversation with him about this he always get very upset. But I don’t have any other option at the same time I dont wanna loose him. I love very much but I wanna wait until we get marry. Now i don’t know what to do..?? How can I make him understand about my situation. Can you guys help me out. My mind isn’t working. N.
Answer: Dear N.: Years ago men were willing to wait. They didn’t like it but it was expected of them. That is no longer true, especially after people become adults. Society accepts pre-marital sex and it is usually just too difficult for most men to refrain. Under such circumstances, I doubt very much if you are going to have the kind of engagement you would prefer. I also doubt, if you break it off, that you are going to find the kind of man that would do as you ask. It’s your choice but I think you may be fighting a losing battle.
The other side of the coin is that your guy may open the door for you sexually and then move on. We really can’t predict what others are going to do. Part of growing up is learning to deal with whatever comes our way. There are no guarantees. Blessings, Luise