Question: Dear Luise: I have a 4 year old son who is not talking/understanding us so well. The doctors keep pointing towards Autism. He is being check out by the Children’s hospital next month. He’s not so bad, just late with talking, and it seems sometimes he’s in his own world. He also has a problem with hitting other kids. His teacher says he’s regularly hitting other kids. I’ve also seen him hit other kids for no good reason. I’m sure he understands that it’s not nice but he just doesn’t seem to show any signs of improvement. My husband and I will discipline him by putting him in the corner, but that has no effect. I don’t know if he understands us some times, so its hard to know if we are doing the right thing. I am hoping some one else has some good advice on this, because other parents at his school have complained about him. I don’t want him to get kicked out of school over this! He’s actually a really nice boy, but he just suddenly hits kids or animals for little or no reason. V.
Answer: Dear V.: Good for you for looking more deeply into what is going on. I think you will have a lot more to go on when the testing that is set up for next month is complete and recommendations have been made. I don’t know anything about autism but I do know that your son is not a candidate for a regular school. The teachers there aren’t trained to deal with the kind of behavior he is evidencing. And it isn’t fair to the other children who are being abused by him. (Hitting without provocation is abuse.)
Take him out of school. Don’t let him get “kicked out.” He is just a little person unable to cope for some reason and being rejected for that only makes it worse. Blessings, Luise