Archive | Mental Health

Should I Trust Him and Marry Him

Question: Dear Luise: I’ve been engaged for 6 months and am staying with my fiance. 4 months after our engagement, I found out he was having affair with another girl. I’ve settled the problem with that girl. She promised she would leave my fiance and she did. He promised me he would not do the […]

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How Can I Deal With Anxiety and Anger

Question: Dear Luise: I am no longer a kid, (far, far from it), but I have never grown out of having a quick temper and falling into feeling really fearful at times. I honestly don’t think that the things that throw me are all that serious, after the fact…but that doesn’t help me at the […]

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Being Around Rage Hurts Me

Question: Dear Luise: I want to ask how to cope with hostility in others. I went to a zoning hearing and testify for the place I live. They want to expand and have done all of their ecology research and planning to meet and exceed all codes. Their application has been approved but some neighbors […]

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Feeling Needy

Question: Dear Luise: I am dealing with my mother’s recent death and it seems to me like I am putting extra pressure on my life-partner. We are often separated but we stay in close contact by cell and email when I’m out of town. This latest absence, due to being the executor of my mother’s […]

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She’s Emotionally Shut Down

Question: Dear Luise: I am in a committed relationship with a woman who is pretty emotionally shut down. She knows it’s from childhood abuse but she isn’t able to get past it. Is there any way I can help her? Thank you in advance for your help, if my question is one that you address. […]

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I’m Hot Tempered

Question: Dear Luise: I am inclined to fly off the handle at the slightest provocation and my husband is very even tempered. He sees me as “spirited” and “honest”…but I don’t like the way it feels. Is there such a thing as natural dispositions or am I in need to help with this? Thanks. Claudine […]

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That Voice In My Head

Question: Dear Luise: I have talked with a lot of people who have the same problem I have with random thoughts that pop up to remind me of failures, errors, misdeeds, and missed opportunities. It happens when I’m not focused on something, like when I’m driving my car. Anything can trigger these thoughts and there […]

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I Mother My Husband

Question: Dear Luise: I am aware that I mother my husband. I always have. I’m overprotective and in some ways patronizing. I do things for him that he should do for himself and I don’t ask enough of him. I’ve always been that way and if he doesn’t like it, he doesn’t really complain very […]

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