Question: Dear Luise: I have been involved with a married minister for over a year. We have shared a lot of things, we talk 4 or 5 days out of a week. We live in different places so we see each other other when we can. He has been busted several times about me and now his wife is threatening him if he contacts me. I was his first affair and we both have admitted how we feel about one another. K.
Answer: Dear K.: It would seem to me that being an ordained minister would be a very tough calling. They usually aren’t given the latitude by society that the rest of us are. They have to be an example, without exception, and practice what they preach…or be disgraced and face ruin.
His feelings for you may be authentic and so my yours for him. However, it had to take some real lack of integrity on both of your parts to let anything even get started, much less keep it going for over a year. What do you see ahead except heartbreak for all concerned including his wife and children? Why did you write to me? The cat is out of the bag and there’s no undoing it, now. Blessings to all of you…I find it terribly sad, Luise