Question: Dear Luise: I adopted my husbands three children when they were small. I have been there supported them financially gave them love and I never treated them like if they were not my own. As they got older I had problems with my youngest daughter lying about me, then I was closer to my oldest and she left this home I told her to leave she was beingdis-respectful, I have been through so much with them and I love them. Now they ignore me, isolate from me, don’t bother to call me they don’t care about me at all. I am so hurt. Yes I have argued with them because of the way the have been with me but I miss them and love them and they could careless if I live or die? what can or should I do? is it fair to say after I did all for them they could just ignore me like if I wasn’t nothing in their lifes? I.
Answer: Dear I.: No, it isn’t fair but it happens to a lot of biological parents, as well. I’m so sorry. You deserve better than that. Please come over to the Web-forum I started several years ago for women who have issues with adult children and extended families. You will have the opportunity to be heard there by others who understand. Experiences and solutions are shared and much healing takes place. www.WiseWomenUnite.com Blessings, Luise