Question: Dear Luise: Is it too much for a man who has one child (and only wanted one child) to ask a single mom (with one child) not to have her child come live with them? The man’s child lives with his “ex.” V.
Answer: Dear V.: Anyone can ask but very few mothers would be inclined to choose to abandon a child in favor of a new relationship.
I do respect the guy for putting his cards on the table and not pretending that he is willing to accept what won’t work for him. However, what he wants probably won’t work for her.
Such alliances are usually package deals. A single mom is encumbered, there’s no getting around it. And a new guy who is not into kids is probably a poor choice for her. Blessings, Luise