Question: Dear Luise: My son has married a Japanize 34yr woman with no children. With in hours of meeting me she decared she hated me but reason has changed each time asked. No my son says I am rude, very negative, cant handle, expect money from them even when I had not asked or even thought of it. No during his last visit to family he says it was the worst visit one ever with one reason being have to spend any time with me. Now after talking to him with no meeting of any idea he has declared I am to leave them alone and go away. He never ever expressed such distain toward me before he met her. My other son is starting to agree with them. It hurts so much that he wants me out of his life. I wasn’t in it much anway. Talked 2-3 a year since he lives in Japan. Is he on drugs or a mental illness? D.
Answer: Dear D.: I believe that your question is best approached from dialoguing with multiple women. It’s too complex to address by means of a single answer from one individual. I learned several years ago that when the issues involve adult children and extended familie, a different venue is needed and started a womens Web-forum for that purpose. I will respond to you there but you will be able to interact with others, as well. Please come over to www.WiseWomenUnite.com where caring and sharing often brings about healing. Blessings, Luise