Question: Dear Luise: My middle son is an adult who never disrespected me, raised his voice or verbally abused me. His father is an alcoholic whom I divorced many years ago. Last August, my son moved to my state and neighborhood, moved in with one of my “supposed” friends and both of them have started a vendetta against me, slandering me in my community and to my friends. I am asthmatic and this is causing me physical problems and is destroying my life here. I have done nothing to offend, hurt or upset anyone. I belong to Alanon and am trying to detach with love but it is tearing me apart. I have to constantly defend myself to others and he is trying to turn my other son against me. One of his friends sent me a threatening text telling me to move. Please help. E.
Answer: Dear E.: Why he hates you is not the issue, as I see it…your survival is.
My take is that you need more than just me in your corner to get through this. Please consider coming over to my Web-forum at www.WiseWomenUnite.com where there is a community that will understand and support you. I’m not strong on facing up to insanity, persecution, abandonment and rejection. If it were me, I’d take the advice of your son’s friend and move. I’m not saying that’s the right thing…I just couldn’t stand it, either. You will get other…perhaps wiser feed back on my forum. I hope you join us. Blessings, Luise