What’s Up With My Future Mother in Law?

Question: Dear Luise: What is the customary greeting from a fiancé’s mother to the bride-to-be upon engagement? My future mother in law gave me a hug and told me “good job!” upon learning of my engagement to his son. I have been since bothered by it. Is this customary? I just kept quiet because she may just be unaware it comes across as insulting and demeaning. Or perhaps she is oblivious that I might not even catch it? M.

Answer: Dear M.: As far as I know, the customary response is “Congratulations!” And maybe, “Welcome to the family.”

Good for you for not saying anything. It came with a hug. That’s something.

Please bring your question over to my Web-forum: www.WiseWomenUnite.com . You may get some clarification there. Off the top of my head…I would say the lady has poor manners. Let’s hope it’s nothing more ominous than that. Blessings, Luise

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