Question: Dear Luise: I am a mother of 5 children. 1 is only 8 years old the others are all grown up. My husband does not live with me and I am basically living without work hoping he sends me money. One of my grown daughters has 3 children of her own. They are close in age to my youngest. I watch her kids for her a few times a week and am always there when she needs me. One of her children, age 7, is very rude, annoying and does not respect me at all. He has gone as far as to try to “tell on me” for punishing him, or for the way I took care of situations while my daughter was at work. He tends to blow things way out of porportion, so you can guess how my daughter felt when she had talked to him about the situation. I got a phone call from her and she was acting like her son was right about stuff and I was lying. That was just rediculous. The problem is still in my heart, however I stayed calm talked it over with her and resolved to an extent the situation. I do not appriciate being treated so unfairly, or so disrespectfully. It is highly annoying. I have done what I could to help her for free, even though I have no money or job of my own. At one point she was watching my 8 year old one day a week so I could go to college. She stopped when she decided it was her day off and she needed the day without my daugher there. I feel so unappriciated and hurt. I really don’t know how to express my feelings to her. Can you help me to know what to say? Thanks. P.
Answer: Dear P.: This is the kind of question that I refer to my Web-forum because you can get more that one answer by doing that. Go to: www.wisewomenunite.com
You will find a very loving and understanding community there. Blessings, Luise