Question: Dear Luise: I am considering just walking away from my son altogether. I am damned if I do and damned if I don’t! His wife is right even when she’s wrong. She contends that problems in her marriage are to due to in law interference (meaning me). However, practically every member of her family have lived with them and are into every aspect of their marriage. However, considerable manipulative efforts are taken(seemingly unknowing to my son) to totally ignore or acknowledge me or my family at all. Frankly, I have resolve to just walking away from him and his new found family since we don’t matter anyway. I don’t have the time or effort to even care anymore. It’s really hopeless. Thanks for listening. V.
Answer: Dear V.: It seems to me that when an adult child chooses a partner that totally changed the family dynamics…those involved have the right to choose their own direction. You didn’t marry the woman. If you are interested, come on over to my Web-forum, www.WiseWomenUnite.com where this all-too-common issue is addressed in dialogue format. Blessings, Luise