Question: Dear Luise: I am a 1st time grandma of a 9 months little girl, my son and his wife advised me that they are relocating in dallas Tx and her parents are moving there also. I always feel so left out because her parents have money and my son says my granddaughter is their life. I haven’t stopped crying since they told me this news. How do I cope. ?
Answer: Dear ?: As hard as it is to face, this is their decision to make. When adult children marry they start a new family unit and in the process make up their own rules. We never know how that’s going to look or if it is going to include us.
Crying and self-pity may be a natural way to respond but beyond that you are going to have to face the difficult problem of how to rebuild your life. You were a whole person before you became a grandmother and you can be a whole again. However, the only person who can heal you is you.
In the meantime if you need to see a counselor to give you a helping hand, that may be a good idea. It’s a terrible shock and brings with it a huge disappointment. You may need an advocate as you process what has happened and how to move on with your own life.
Please consider coming over to the Web-forum I have established for women with issues concerning adult children and extended families: www,WiseWomenUnite.com . You will find understanding and support there. Blessings, Luise