Obesity is not Fat and Sassy…I’m Miserable

Question: Dear Luise: I wonder if you can give me any direction about being overweight. I’m not hugely fat but I am about 30 pounds over where I feel and look good. I’m just overwhelmed with all of the data out there. There are too many books that have THE answer and too many diets that are THE one and too many pills that will solve THE problem. I just have no idea what to do or where to go. My doctor is no help because he says I’m not in serious trouble and should just “watch it”. When I ask him what that means he says to eat and exercise wisely. Well, duh! I think I can work my way through this problem if I can just get some general direction minus the hype. Do you have any comments for me? Thank you for your time. Liza

Answer: Dear Liza: I wish I didn’t have a clue. I wish I was one of those people who declare they are totally full when they have eaten about a third of what’s on their plates and I wish I could remark that something was “way too sweet!” Not so! Not in this lifetime!

So, yes, I am willing to pass on a few ideas and resources to you on this bewildering subject. I know, I know…it’s hard to trust a woman’s magazine that has banner headlines on the cover about the newest, greatest diet and also their very latest recipe for the chocolate cake to die for. And every diet pill ad shows someone so skinny and so young that you know they must think you’re an idiot to believe their testimonials.

I would like to suggest a recently published book that refers to the other countless books out there on the subject, gleaning from each, the basic, viable points being offered. It is “SUGAR SHOCK! ” by Connie Bennett , C.H.H.C. and Stephen T.Sinatra, M.D.

There’s a perfectly logical reason we are overweight…as a nation. Somehow that removes a lot of the personal guilt for me. Yes, I know…I’m the one who bends the elbow…but…there are a lot of other factors that are already stacked against me/us. Being better informed on the subject has changed my shopping habits, radically, and I am also much more careful about how often I eat out, where I eat out and how much of which specific foods I consume.

Those of us with this problem to a lesser or greater degree are not going to find any magic diet, exercise machine, pill or guru that will transform us, in our sleep, to the proportions we dream of. Weight goes on slowly. It comes off slowly and often with great difficulty. Not always. But that’s true for me.

Start out by reading “SUGAR SHOCK!” if what I have said about it appeals to you, and then hit their website, www.sugarshock.com for guidelines and support. Good for you for asking about this confusingly dangerous subject. Blessings, Luise

2 Responses to Obesity is not Fat and Sassy…I’m Miserable

  1. Beverly February 10, 2007 at 4:01 pm #

    Hello Luise, I so enjoy your website, and how generous you are in answering people’s questions. Sugar addiction is something my husband deals with constantly. I sometimes feel like I am a yo yo since his eating habits go from eating what he wants to total avoidance of trigger foods. Since I am not a sugar addict I would sure appreciate any tips for those of us who are not addicted to sugar who have partners who are. Do we refrain from having foods we like in the house because of the pressure it puts on them? Do we eat those foods in front of them? I sure would appreciate some advice on living with a sugarholic. Beverly

  2. Luise February 10, 2007 at 4:44 pm #

    Answer: Hi Beverly: Well, I think your question is one that requires different answers for different people. It’s the degree to which they are hooked that determines the need for a “clean” space in which to live. For spouses that are true addicts to sugar, seriously endangered and out of control, it would be the same as living in a house with an active, struggling alcoholic and keeping booze around for your own convenience. For most of them, not all, it just wouldn’t work. Addiction isn’t logical. It isn’t rational. It’s not responsible, ethical or “normal”. It’s a force that conquers and kills…to give it it’s just due. And anyone taking it on and trying to beat it needs all the help they can get. Yes, eat only what he eats. It should be a good, balanced diet. And “treat” yourself away from home, alone. If you are stong enough to do it, continue to eat the right stuff even when he falls off the wagon. Blessings, Luise

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