Question: Dear Luise: My 28 year old son treats me with disrepect and says anything to hurt me. It comes out of the blue. My husband can sit right there and not do anything about it. I am so hurt. He works two weeks on/off, makes good money, but doesn’t’ pay for anything. My husband does not want him to leave, i do. Please help! M.
Answer: Dear M.: The issue is with your husband. He is the one who is showing disrespect by allowing your son’s abuse and lack of responsibility to continue. You can’t do anything about it until you and your husband are on the same page.
I wouldn’t stay with a guy who stood by and watched me being treated like that. No matter how hard it was to do, I would leave them to it. It’s up to you.
Women say I can’t leave because _______. Or I have to stay because _______. It’s the same thing. I left a marriage where I had a gorgeous view home, a new car and a charter membership in the Yacht Club for a nothing job, no car and a falling down rental at the end of an alley. As far as I was concerned, it was a great improvement. Blessings, Luise