Question: Dear Luise: I am eighteen years old and currently going to a community college. I’m looking at colleges to transfer to next year. All of them are at least two hours from home, so I’d be living there. I’ve wanted to live away from home for a while now, but I feel torn about this because of my pets…mostly because of my dog. My dog is eleven, going on twelve, and he’s showing signs of age. He’s on two medications right now. One is for Cushing’s disease. Dogs with Cushing’s usually have about two years to live after they’re diagnosed, even with medication. I love this dog with all of my heart and leaving him would be hard even if he weren’t getting older…I can’t imagine waking up in the morning and not seeing his happy face and wagging tail. I am so afraid to lose him. I’m seriously considering staying home for another year, mostly because it would break my heart to be apart from my dog, especially now that he doesn’t have that much time left. He is truly my best friend in the entire world. I have plenty of human friends, but none are as close as him. I want the freedom and experience of college, but at the same time I don’t want to leave my best friend. I am already a year ahead in college because I left high school early. I know he won’t forget me and I know he’ll still love me but it’s hard. It’s just really hard, and I don’t know anyone who understands enough to have this conversation with. I was hoping maybe you could give me some advice. Thank you, E.
Answer: Dear E.: What a lovely, heartfelt question.
Everyone has a different idea about dogs, I’m sure, regarding what their function is, if any. Some see them as outdoor working animals, some breed them for profit and some don’t pay all that much attention to them, one way or the other.
I personally think they are angels, put here to teach us about unconditional love. We don’t experience that kind of love with most family members or friends. Of necessity, humans have multiple agendas. I don’t think dog do. They come to love.
You have to decide what your priorities are, of course. I would stay home another year and give my best friend all the love I had to give.
If you want to get in touch with him on a deeper level, go to: www.MaryGetten.com Mary is a friend of a friend of mine and is an Animal Intuitive. She can talk with your dog and relay messages back and forth. (Yes, I know lots of people think this is hogwash. I don’t happen to be one of them.)
When I married my husband, I had two dogs and he had none. When I asked him why, he told me he just didn’t want the responsibility and “dogs were for kids.” Now, 20 years later, I would never be so foolish as to ask him to choose between our dog and me. I know who would win! LOL! Blessings, Luise