Question: Dear Luise: I injured my Left arm just before Christmas. As a result, I could not keep up the pace at work (inbound call center which is very stringent on it’s call time (one has to type notes while talking, but due to the injury, I could not keep up and became too slow).) My job placed me on a warning stating that if I did not do better the next day, they may have to let me go. I could not work more than 4 hrs which made my time even slower when averaged. I have been on Temporary Disability and am close to losing my apt. My daughter stated I would have to come to live nearby, but I could only stay with them a few days – other than that I would have to stay in a homeless shelter nearby. The shelter assigns a room to someone, but the limit is 45 days. I have applied for Social Security Disability, but it can take up to 90 days. I feel so unloved and unwanted. My daughter never calls- except twice when she wanted something. I know she’s wall-to-wall busy – as is the rest of her family. I am the only one divorced in our families, and where they live, marriage is deemed extremely important – so I probably am an embarrassment. I feel so sad. Useless. The only time I’ve seen the grandkids is when I have driven the 3-1/2 hrs there. I’m not up to driving right now. Treatment will hopefully begin on Wed. Until then – I don’t know why I’m still here. i am so sad. I don’t know what to do. We’re too much alike and get on each other’s nerves after awhile. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve applied for food stamps and medical here. But the homeless shelters here and metro housing are horrors. I don’t have many friends because I worked 2 jobs and raised my kids by myself. Any ideas? I am getting desperate. N.
Answer: Dear N.: I don’t know much about what your options are. It looks to me like you are researching it and being proactive. My take is to bring your issue over to my Web-forum immediately to see if any of the members there can come up with some suggestions. It is a women’s forum for those of us who have issues with our adult children and extended families, so you will be listened to with compassion and understood. Please give it a try. The support of a community can be very helpful. We are at www.WiseWomenUnite.com . Don’t give up! Blessings, Luise