Kids Being Turned Against Me

Question: Dear Luise: I am 41 years old. I have three kids and my mom making them turn against me. S.

Answer: Dear S.: When someone is being turned against us, they always have a choice. They don’t need to listen or if they do, they aren’t required to buy into it. When we have been the ones to raise them, we have had to discipline them and this often harbors resentment. With a little push from another person, it can support a denial of everything we did that was loving…as well as how much we care.

I don’t know of anything we can do in such circumstances to turn it around. It is usually necessary to take our own stand regarding cruelty. Accepting it is seen as agreeing with it. If we keep our faith and our dignity, sometimes the manipulations of others are seen through and those we love, return. Blessings, Luise

One Response to Kids Being Turned Against Me

  1. N. September 23, 2013 at 10:43 am #

    THIS IS N AWFUL SITUATION. I TOO HAVE HAD MY MOTHER – BITTER AND JEALOUS
    WOMEN – TURN MY SON AGAINST ME – AND I DIN’T SEE HIM FOR 7 LONG PAINFUL
    YEARS – AT ONE POINT I DIDN’T KNOW IF HE WAS EVEN ALIVE!! W RETIRED AND
    TOOK MY MOTHER WITH US AS SHE’D HAD HEART FAILURE (CAUSED BY HEAVY SMOKING!) I HAD TO LOOK AFTER HER AND AS A PRACTICING CATHOLIC I ALSO
    HAD TO FORGIVE! MY FAITH HELPED ME THROUGH IT BUT I SUFFERED A BREAKDOWN.
    WHEN MY MOTHER DIED MY SON CAME BACK INTO MY LIFE – BUT HAS NEVER TALKED
    ABOUT IT! I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO THIS WOMAN – BUT HER MOTHER SOUNDS
    VINDICTIVE AND SPITEFUL. MY HEART GOES OUT TO HER AND THERE ARE NO WORDS
    I CAN SAY. FOR ME – I FOUND PRAYER HELPFUL. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS. N

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