Question: Hey Luise. I have a question regarding our little puppy. I am jealous of all the attention she gets from my husband. He gives her so much more attention than he gives me. It made me feel very bad that we have been arguing about her. He can’t seem to fully understand. I mean he has changed many things that upset me like giving her more attention. However, now I feel like its way beyond the limits. I guess I’m just not an animal person. It annoys me when she licks my husband, when she sleeps in the sofa with him, when he talks to her like if she was human, a baby! I’m sorry, but I’ve tried to cope with her and I just can’t take it anymore. It makes me really sad but I really don’t want the dog anymore, we are having so many problems. I hate to sound selfish and childish but that’s how I feel and I can’t change the way I feel about the dog. Some people are born to like certain things and other different ones. I wish I loved everything about her but I can’t and it makes me sad. I don’t want to have problems with my husband because of a dog. It might sound mean and I’m sorry but it really hurts me when we argue and say hurtful things just for a dog. I don’t know what else to do? D.
Answer: Dear D.: There’s nothing you can say or do to change how your husband feels. He’s just a dog lover and for you that’s a deal-breaker. He shouldn’t have to give up his perfectly nomad affection for a little animal that offers unconditional love (which we can’t do) and you shouldn’t have to live in a situation that makes you miserable. Cut your losses and move on before it gets really ugly. He isn’t going to change and neither are you. You both deserve better. Blessings, Luise