Question: Dear Luise: my grandaughter is causing alot of problem on line that could cause my daughter to lose her nursing license,these things are not true. My grandchild is so rude and hateful to her mom or anyone who does not agree with her.My daughter crys all the time. Is there anything I can do or change this? I just hate what this is doing. J.
Answer: Dear J.: I wish I had an answer. A teenager out for revenge for real or imagined reasons is like a freight train going downhill without brakes. Trying to keep them off the computer is something many have tried to do. They will find a way if the motivation is strong enough. You just can’t watch, supervise and control 24/7 and they know it.
Your granddaughter doesn’t know that none of us had perfect childhoods for the simple reason that our mothers were human. No matter what the circumstances, there were some serious bumps in the road for all of us. Usually when a teen or young adult starts the kind of thing you are describing, it is because they want to deny being responsible. They choose blame as the handy alternative.
All I have to offer is to say that most employers are not going to fire someone and most states are not going to take away a license when the child behind it all is acting out. They’ve seen it before and without proof of the accusations, don’t buy into it. You and your daughter deserve so much better. Blessings, Luise