Question: Hi Luise: I make a decision but I can’t stay with it. I’m a “waffler”. Doubts come up and I have an awful time following through. It isn’t that I can’t come up with a plan…I can do that, but then I start asking everyone else’s opinion and doubting mine. How can I address this, so I don’t feel so uncomfortable and create so much pressure in my life? Thank you. Sincerely, Melinda
Answer: Dear Malinda: Thank you for addressing this issue on my web site. Fear is something we all have to deal with; making mistakes, being embarrassed, lacking perfection. Somehow most of us get imprinted with the need to always do everything right. Not a bad goal, if we could leave out the “always”. It can’t be done, always. No one can do it…not even those who appear to. Someone once told me that Mother Theresa had a terrible temper. I loved it!
Start cutting yourself some slack. Make a choice and ask yourself if the world would stop turning on it’s axis if it didn’t turn out perfectly. Pass on asking others what they think. You know what? They don’t have a clue, either. Create some humor around this…like asking yourself what the odds are that you might have done your best. That’s a lot more attainable than perfection. Even laugh at yourself a little, at the arrogance it takes to think you “could ” do everything right, every time. Smile and accept your humanness. Everyone’s in the same boat. Blessings, Luise