Question: Dear Luise: I have a situation I’ve been living with my boyfriend for 3 years now, this is not something we decided on, my mom kicked me out and he was kind enough to take me in..we have come a long way from the first time i moved in..but for some reason i feel like my mind doesn’t seem to focus on the important things i feel overwhelmed because of the fact that he’s older than me and i know older man want certain things..its been a while since we’ve had sex for many reasons..i feel like a lot of things have happened and he feels ive done them because i am young. i feel that he’s at a point where he is getting tired, i really love him and want to salvage this relationship i want to make it work..what can i do? C.
Answer: Dear C.: One thing none of us can do is make something work. It has to be a team effort. If he is willing, it’s time for some couples counseling. You got a rough start and it sounds like you need to work on your communication skills so you both can sort out what your goals are and if your needs are being met. Drifting is only going to create a wider gulf between you and both of you deserve better. Blessings, Luise