Question: Dear Luise: My 29 year old son has totally cut me out of his life.I did the best i could when he was growing up. i was a divorced, single mother of 2. i worked 2 and 3 jobs, while trying to go to school. I didn’t attend alot of his school functions, terrified i’d be fired from my job if i did. i received no child support and had no support from family really. i did without so he and his sister could have what they needed to survive. This past thanksgiving & christmas he declined the invitation and said he just didn’t want to be with us. that was the first time he ever declined the holidays. he wouldn’t even give me a hug the last time i saw him…December. he’s changed his phone number, so i can’t reach him at all. he attends college, for which i paid for the first 2 years, about 100 miles away. i’ve cried and cried. the guilt and regret has nearly made me suicidal. He won’t tell me what i did so wrong that he doesn’t even want to know me. the pain is unbearable. I finally wrote him a long letter & reminded him that i did the best i could and that the next move was up to him. i haven’theard from him since. i put all his pictures away, because seeing them was just toooooo painful. i miss him so much! i love him so much! I don’t even know how to talk to him anymore. i try to be grateful for his sister, who still loves me, but he’s always on my mind and in my heart. i’m such a mess. Was the letter the wrong thing to do? i know he got it because it didn’t come back. How do i survive this horrible pain? sometimes it feels like my heart will literally break in half. please tell me i’m not crazy. D.
Answer: Dear D.: I am going to let a community of women who have experienced the same thing or something very similar share their experience and healing with you…if you are not suicidal. If you are, a Web-site is not the action needed…calling 911 is. We are at www.WiseWomenUnite.com Blessings, Luise