1355B – How Much Longer Do I Wait?

Question: Dear Luise: My girlfriend of seven years left eight months ago. We have a three year old daughter and I miss them very much. I made many mistakes during our relationship. But for the last eight months have worked hard pn my core issues. I still love her very much. We have just started couples counseling but she is confussed about why she stills love me after the hurt I put us through. I have changed and she see’s this but doesn’t know how to feel. The separation is starting to effect our daughter I barely see her. Her family is aganist us trying to work it out they never liked me cause of my race. They dont know we are in counseling. She is only doing counseling because of our daughter. Im going to try and save our relationship. Im strong enough to walk away but don’t want too at one point I wasen’t. I really want my family but she is to cofussed to committ to going to counseling to try an reconcile and rather just see what comes of it. Im ready to regain my life back I have stayed single no dating and just worked on me. I have mixed feelings due to her being confussed. What should I do? Do I stop the counseling and just move on even though my heart says fight for your family. I feel its going to take both of us committed to make it work. I’m lost and need some advice. I have been faithful during this process but im very lonely and want to share my life with someone I want it to be her. How much longer do I wait? S.

Answer: Dear S. This is something to address in counseling. If you aren’t on the same page, you may be able get there with help. At present, what has gone on before has affected your girlfriend so seriously that she can’t or won’t let it go and if you reconciled you would never hear the end of it. You don’t want to go there, I’m sure.

A fresh start may be your only option. It sounds to me  like you are getting tired of waiting and see little or no progress…couple-wise. If so, it’s time to make that clear. Blessings, Luise

 

 

 

Question: Dear Luise: My girlfriend of seven years left eight months ago. We have a three year old daughter and I miss them very much. I made many mistakes during our relationship. But for the last eight months have worked hard pn my core issues. I still love her very much. We have just started couples counseling but she is confussed about why she stills love me after the hurt I put us through. I have changed and she see’s this but doesn’t know how to feel. The separation is starting to effect our daughter I barely see her. Her family is aganist us trying to work it out they never liked me cause of my race. They dont know we are in counseling. She is only doing counseling because of our daughter. Im going to try and save our relationship. Im strong enough to walk away but don’t want too at one point I wasen’t. I really want my family but she is to cofussed to committ to going to counseling to try an reconcile and rather just see what comes of it. Im ready to regain my life back I have stayed single no dating and just worked on me. I have mixed feelings due to her being confussed. What should I do? Do I stop the counseling and just move on even though my heart says fight for your family. I feel its going to take both of us committed to make it work. I’m lost and need some advice. I have been faithful during this process but im very lonely and want to share my life with someone I want it to be her. How much longer do I wait? S.

 

Answer: Dear S. This is something to address in counseling. If you aren’t on the same page, you may be able get there with help. At present, what has gone on before has affected your girlfriend so seriously that she can’t or won’t let it go and if you reconciled you would never hear the end of it. You don’t want to go there, I’m sure.

 

A fresh start may be your only option. Blessings, Luise

 

 

 

 

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