Question: Dearest Luise: I have heard about herbal aphrodisiacs for women, but I’m wondering…do herbs for improving your sex life really work? I am going on 60 and have all of a sudden lost my sex drive. I have had a wonderful sex life with my husband up until the last year. He is 10 [...]

Question: Dear Luise: I know you get your share of questions from women about how to go on after their husbands stooped to having an affair, but my problem is the reverse. I have always been faithful to my wife even though I’ve had my share of opportunities not to be. My wife didn’t just [...]

Question: Dear Luise: We are in love but not in lust. How important is it for a couple to have fireworks in their relationship? We have talked about this and both of us feel comfortable without any high sexual drama in our intimacy. A lingering concern remains, however, and we don’t know whom to ask [...]

Question: Dear Luise: I am interested in your thinking about one-night stands. I don’t think they are as terrible as people say they are. We never know what’s in the future. Don’t you agree that there’s a possibility that you might find some chemistry that could be the beginning of a full-blown relationship? Why is [...]

Question: Dear Luise: I am interested in your take on the absence of sexual passion in most marriages after a while. I’m young and not married yet but it seems to be an accepted fact that passion dies with time. Is it necessary for that to happen? I sometimes think I would rather stay single [...]

Question: Dear Luise: I know this isn’t the kind of question you usually get, but I don’t want to ask it on a site that is more liberal. Well, that may sound like I’m classifying you as conservative, and that’s not quite it. I just feel more comfortable with the way you are sort of [...]

Question: Dear Luise: I am feeling like I might be ready to become sexually active, but I don’t feel comfortable with all of the complexities that could go with it. I have a very patient boyfriend, so that’s not the issue, (at least not yet.) What bothers me is that everything I have read about [...]

Question: Dear Luise: I am not particularly impressed with the quality of the intimacy I’m experiencing in my relationship. How do I deal with this? What I mean is, is that par for the course? I really have no way to measure what a happy sex life should be. What’s your take on it? Leslie [...]