Comments on: I Can’t Cope With My Mother’s Death

By: Luise

Luise — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 03:03:18 +0000

Dear J. I don’t know if you like to write or not. I do, (obviously,) and that’s what helped me when my grown son died. I did two things. First, I put my anguish and despair and anger down on paper. I just poured it all out and when I felt it again, I did it again…for a long time. And secondly, I wrote to him and then I wrote back to me from him. It was wonderful! It isn’t good to keep grief inside but I agree with you that it isn’t always good to let it all hang out when it makes it harder on those around us. Blessings, Luise

By: J.

J. — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:32:23 +0000

Hi Luise
I am 15 years old, and my mother died 30th of January 2008 of cancer…I was 14 at the time. I miss her so much and I am having a hard time coping with it, I dont show any signs of grief or anything although I do want to cry often, but i am afraid that when I cry that I wont be strong for my father and brother. I hav a lot of mood swings lately and I sometimes dont know how to control it. How can I let out my anger and pain inside of me, Is there another way other than crying? J.

By: Luise

Luise — Mon, 05 May 2008 22:48:20 +0000

Answer: Dear G. It is my guess that your mother got to have it the way she wanted it. You honored her request. It was her decision. She may have been really tired out from her long-term condition and ready to move on. It is pricelss to be heard and respected. Blessings, Luise

By: G

Mon, 05 May 2008 12:13:40 +0000

Hi Luise
My mom recently passed away, and I am having difficulty coping with the lost. She suffered with her heart for 10 years, but I felt she would have lasted a little longer because she was strong. She called me hours before she died and I prepared a meal she requested. I knew she was having a heart attack and made efforts to take her to the hospital. However, she managed to convince me that she felt better. She passed in her sleep three hours after. I cry constantly because I believe if I had taken her to the hospital she would have been saved. How can I get over this guilt considering I was always the one to insist on her seeking medical attention. G.

By: Luise

Luise — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 01:07:37 +0000

Dear Y. Your loss will never go away but it will slowly change. We have no idea, none of us, how to do life without our mothers. They were always “there for us.” And not one of us thinks we did all we should have done or could have done. We don’t understand death, aren’t ready for it to separate us from our loved ones and have no real sense that we will follow in our parent’s footsteps. Get a notebook and write to her…if you are willing. Let yourself write answers back from her. There is no reason you can’t have a different kind of relationship with her if you are willing to create one. And she was very lucky to have you as a daughter and with her as she passed over. What a gift! Blessings, Luise

By: yvonne

yvonne — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 20:48:38 +0000

I lost my mum in august 2005. She had cancer. I live in South Yorkshire and didn’t have a car at the time to go and see her when I wanted to. I feel that I didn’t do enough to help out with her care. She was not only my Mum but my best friend as well. I just can’t accept that she is no longer with me. I miss her so much and there are times I just sit and think about her and cry. I was laying with her when she passed away which I am glad I was but life just doesn’t feel the same anymore, now she has gone. I miss her so much. It hurts me. Y.